Using psychology

I'm trying recently to use psychology to my benefit. I generally think that too much psychological knowledge can actually cause, or exacerbate, the existing problem, by way of giving it a name that can then be subscribed to. For instance, if you think you are an introvert, you can end up acting in that way (avoiding people, not overcoming social struggles, etc.) because well, I'm an introvert.

However, in the past few weeks I've been trying to look at myself through a psychological lens, and I think it probably does me a lot of good. For instance, I've been looking at the attachment styles, and have sort of found out that I am somewhere between avoidant and fearful-avoidant. I've also been thinking about the crushes that I've ended up with, which are essentially limerent experiences. That in combination with the holdover social anxiety I had, which I call social malaise...

I think it is useful to use these terms, but it doesn't help me just to say, "well, I'm fearful-avoidant". What I think is useful, and I'm still not all the way through it, is to try to tackle it on many levels. For instance, if I have this problem, I can both try to recognise the thinking that goes into it and overcome it, be aware of when I experience associated phenomena (for example, what I call trance, which is essentially dissociation), and tackle it from a neurophysiological way (for instance, using meditation to try to strengthen specific parts of the mind that may be "weak" in me). Essentially, use the knowledge of psychology, alongside general introspection, to work out what might be a useful next step forward, instead of either a confirmation and affirmation of my present state, or as a stick to beat myself with.